I thought today, I would post about an injustice, which has personally affected my life in a huge way for the last 7 years, and that is the simple right for a gay citizen of the United States to sponsor a foreign born partner for immigration.
7 years ago, I met and fell in love with a woman from the United States. It was the best, most loving relationship I have ever experienced with anyone, but sadly it came to a heart shattering halt earlier this year. (Her doing, not mine.)
We had a lot of things working against us from the moment we met... we were from two different countries, she has an elderly mother who needs taking care of so has to remain in the U.S, and she didn't have the right like straight citizens of her country have, and that was to be able to sponsor me for immigration.
The last five of our seven years together were spent mostly apart, with the last year (just over) apart completely, due to no money for plane tickets. Through it all, I never stopped loving this woman (still haven't.)
Today I sit here at my computer, alone, lonely, miserable, and still finding myself thinking about her. About the life we planned together, which she will now be spending with someone other than myself.
I don't blame her for calling it quits with me, I can't. I got weak myself a few years back and ended it with her. It wasn't because I didn't love her anymore, it was because I couldn't stand the separation any longer and I realized it was tearing her apart to watch me tear myself apart. She managed to talk me around though, but it was still very hard.
She was the kind of person I could bounce anything off and just knew that no matter what silly ideas I would come up with, she was really listening with interest, and not laughing in her mind at me. If I got stuck with some simple HTML coding, she would be there to give me the answer I needed. Today, I wish I had that, because I am currently undertaking the biggest Web job I have ever done and am stuck with some coding, and know I just ask her for help. To resolve my problem, I now have to change the complete format of an entire Web site, because I just can't remember how to do thesimple CSS coding I need, and can't find the answer I seek in Google, either.
We all pay a price for the injustices of the world. The Iraq war only proves that. But should we be forced to not be allowed to love another human being because there are some who will not accept our relationship? Or should it be that those who do not accept should learn to keep their fat mouths shut, and stay out of other peoples business? I say the later.
Had it not been for the homophobes and bigots across the U.S. I would have had a life with the woman I still love today. Had it still come to an end, I still would have had 7 years with her instead of two good years with frequent trips, and five years of barely seeing her.
The way it stands right now, we were never given the chance to really prove to ourselves if we could really make it as a couple.
Sadly though this has been the price I have had to pay bcause of bigots and homophobes who see me as nothing but an immoral, disgusting sinner, rather than the actual human bieng I am.
So if you are one of the bigots or homophobes I talk about and from the U.S, remember it is because of you and people like you that I was never given a real chance at life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness, something that your country prides itself on, but doesn't really follow.
Such is life!
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